To feel
Simply feel what you really have felt;
To understand
Recognize what has happened, to accept by knowing what can handle, what can not
To forgive
Forgiveness doesn’t mean brain dead, but simply recognise the only you can change is yourself;
To commit
Because there is no other choice if you would like to make a change;
To make a closure,
First learn what and how to pick up, then understand what and how to lay down.